Whip It, Don’t Overthink It
This is Your Kitchen bb, do you:)
Still in the Kitchen, Cooking Like a Stir Fry
You’ve been doing the work—reading, reflecting, practicing. You’ve stirred up a lot of awareness, but now it’s time to simmer everything down into something real. Like the perfect stir fry, this process is about timing, heat, and knowing when to flip.
What’s that final missing ingredient to help you serve up the life you’ve been craving? Today, I’m sharing the secret sauce—insights and practices I’ve discovered in my kitchen (both literally and metaphorically). Over the past three months, I’ve been experimenting with ways to integrate cycles of burnout, overwhelm, and disconnection into a life of joy, ease, and creativity.
Here’s the recipe: a dash of trust, a sprinkle of presence, and a whole lot of embodiment. These are high-level takeaways to help you savor that last 5% of alignment. And throughout the week, I’ll be serving up more deep dives into each concept. Grab a plate and let’s get cooking.
Keep Watchin’ Me Whip Up
Observation is the foundation of alignment.
The missing link isn’t effort—it’s awareness. We all have subconscious beliefs simmering beneath the surface, shaping how we respond to the world. These patterns aren’t bad—they just need a remix.
The first step is noticing where you’re gripping too tightly. For me, it was the belief that slowing down meant falling behind. But when I started observing how my body reacted—tight jaw, shallow breathing—I realized those reactions were my body’s way of saying, Pay attention.
Try It for Yourself:
Spend one day just observing your reactions. Notice how your body responds to stress, joy, or rest. Write down what you find—it’s the starting point for any remix.
Cooking from the Heart
Rewrite Through Feeling
Recipes are guides, but real flavor comes when you cook from the heart. Similarly, your body knows the “recipe” for alignment. Instead of overthinking, tap into how it feels to trust your body.
Next Time You Feel: Let It Simmer
Pause during a stressful moment.
Place a hand on your belly and breathe deeply. Ask, What does calm feel like in my body?
Let the sensation grow. Notice how it shifts your mental “flavor.”
Listen to What’s Bubbling
Invite the Subconscious:
Your subconscious isn’t a critic—it’s a quiet chef, guiding the process. But it needs to be heard. Engage it in a gentle dialogue to find out what’s been simmering below the surface.
Next Time You Talk: Sizzle and Speak
Choose a limiting belief (e.g., "Rest equals laziness").
Visualize it as an ingredient. What does it look like? Smell like? Feel like?
Ask yourself, What ingredient could replace it? Imagine mixing in a new belief like, "Rest fuels my creativity."
Taste the Present
Anchor Through the Senses
Good cooking engages all your senses—and so does good living. Sensory anchors, like the smell of coffee or the feel of a warm blanket, help bridge the gap between mind and body.
Next Time You Ground: Spice It Up
During a daily task (like sipping tea or washing dishes), focus on one sense at a time.
Notice the texture, temperature, or scent. Let it bring you fully into the moment.
Ask, What does this moment taste like to me?
Flip the Script
Take Action from the Body
When you cook with care, each step feels intentional. Life is no different. Before you leap into action, check in with your body. Let it guide your choices instead of rushing to follow your mind’s script.
Next Time You Act: Flip the Pan
Before starting a task, pause and notice your body’s cues.
Ask, What would feel good right now? Let that guide your next move.
Trust that honoring your body will create better results.
I tell myself, “Put it in reverse, Terry!” (yes, the meme lives rent-free in my head)—but hey, if these TikTok sounds are going to stick around, I might as well put them to good use.
More on that later. 😉
Reflect and Celebrate: Plate the Wins
Every good dish deserves a moment to savor. Similarly, each small step in your integration journey is worth celebrating. Reflection and gratitude are the finishing touches that complete the process.
Next Time You Reflect: Taste the Dish
At the end of the day, write down one moment where you felt aligned with your body.
What worked? What did it feel like?
Close your eyes and thank yourself for creating this connection.
Be the Chef of Your Own Life
The Call to Trust:
This is your recipe, your kitchen, your life. The final ingredient to integration is trust—trusting that your body holds the wisdom, that slowing down isn’t failing, and that each moment is an opportunity to create something beautiful.
Let today be the day you stop measuring your progress by someone else’s recipe. Stir things up. Experiment. Let your body lead. And remember: you’re not just cooking up a dish—you’re creating a masterpiece.
Time to fire up the stove. 🍳✨